Adapting to Pain Free
Mar 11
Written by Wayama
Healing is appealing. We all love the idea of being pain-free — the ability to live fully, with our physical body in harmony with us, can feel like a dream. But do we fully consider what it means to live without pain? It may require us to stop comfort eating, stop watching life pass us by, and stop letting others make decisions for us. It requires stepping out of our comfort zone to heal deep trauma.
We adapt to being a certain way; the body has an incredible ability to adjust to circumstances and conditions for survival. Pain can become so familiar that we adapt to it, making it our 'normal.' Yet pain is a signal, an alarm telling us to "stop." When we hold our hand over a flame, we instinctively pull it away. Similarly, when we experience pain in our body, it is telling us to stop — we are out of alignment. While we wish to avert pain, do everything to relieve it, we may also come to accept it as normal. Once something becomes normal, we find a way to feel comfortable with it.
We must ask ourselves honestly: What is happening deep within that prevents us from reaching our goals? And perhaps more importantly, are these goals truly in line with how we feel? We can only progress from where we are truly at. It’s essential to understand that being pain-free is uncomfortable until we reach our true alignment. Staying focused on that alignment will help guide us through the discomfort.
When our intention and consciousness align with our true self, pain dissipates. Discomfort only arises between two different states. Once we find our new alignment, we rediscover comfort — this time without pain. In true alignment, we are free, and joy fills us, spreading throughout our life. This journey requires setting an intention, healing, and enduring discomfort for as long as necessary. It’s about rejoicing in joy, lightness, and all the good feelings that come with it. And when we fall, we must approach ourselves with intention, focus, and compassion. It's during those emotional lows that we may find ourselves slouching, comfort eating, drinking, or becoming so stressed that we lose touch with ourselves without realising it.
The path is colourful and varied; we are captains of this vessel, pure consciousness, bright and aware, living in symbiosis with the trillions of microorganisms that make up the human body.
LIFE IS AMAZING!
I hope this helps if you are between phases or considering that next step. Namaste!
Wayama
How to find alignment?
Finding alignment involves connecting with your true self and understanding what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. It is about living in a way that resonates with your authentic desires, values, and purpose. Here are some steps to help you find and maintain alignment:
1. Self-Reflection and Awareness
Spend time in introspection: Regularly ask yourself deep questions about what makes you happy, what your core values are, and what you truly want in life. Journaling, meditation, and quiet contemplation can help reveal these deeper truths.
Identify misalignments: Look at areas of your life where you feel stressed, drained, or unhappy. These are often signs of misalignment. It could be your work, relationships, habits, or even beliefs.
2. Listen to Your Body and Emotions
Body as a guide: Pain, fatigue, or tension can indicate that something in your life is out of alignment. Tune into how your body feels when you are in different situations — your body often knows before your mind does.
Emotional check-ins: Your emotions are powerful indicators. When you feel joy, passion, or peace, it’s often a sign you’re aligned with your true self. When you feel persistent anxiety, sadness, or anger, it’s worth exploring what’s causing those emotions and if there is a disconnect from your authentic self.
3. Clarify Your Purpose and Values
Define your core values: Identify what principles are non-negotiable in your life — be it honesty, creativity, connection, freedom, or health. Use these values as a compass for making decisions.
Seek purpose-driven activities: Align your life and actions with your purpose, even if you’re not fully certain what it is yet. Engage in activities, work, and relationships that feel meaningful to you.
4. Set Intentions and Boundaries
Intentional living: Rather than acting on autopilot, be intentional about how you spend your time, who you spend it with, and what goals you pursue. This ensures that your daily actions are aligned with your higher self.
Healthy boundaries: Protect your energy and well-being by setting boundaries with people, activities, or situations that take you out of alignment or don't honor your values.
5. Practice Mindfulness and Presence
Stay present: When you are mindful and present in the moment, you become more attuned to what feels aligned and what doesn't. Practices like meditation, mindful breathing, or simply bringing awareness to daily activities help keep you grounded and aligned.
Regular check-ins: Throughout your day, pause to ask yourself, "Am I acting in alignment with my true self right now?" This will keep you on track and help you make adjustments as needed.
6. Let Go of What No Longer Serves You
Release limiting beliefs: Identify and let go of thoughts, beliefs, or patterns that keep you in fear or prevent you from being your true self. These can be beliefs about what you “should” do based on societal expectations or past experiences.
Move through discomfort: Growth and alignment often require leaving your comfort zone. Be willing to let go of relationships, habits, or commitments that no longer align with who you are becoming, even if it's uncomfortable.
7. Connect with Like-Minded People
Surround yourself with support: Build relationships with people who support your growth, encourage your authenticity, and share similar values. Being around like-minded individuals makes it easier to stay aligned and true to yourself.
Seek mentors or guidance: Learning from others who are living in alignment with their purpose can provide insight and inspiration for your own path.
8. Trust the Process and Be Compassionate with Yourself
Be patient with your journey: Finding alignment is an ongoing process. Trust that you are where you need to be right now and that clarity will come as you stay committed to living authentically.
Practice self-compassion: If you find yourself falling out of alignment, avoid self-criticism. Gently guide yourself back to your center, recognizing that it’s normal to have ups and downs as you grow.
By aligning your thoughts, actions, and lifestyle with who you genuinely are, you will start to feel more balanced, joyful, and at peace with yourself and your life. Alignment is about living in harmony with your true self, and this journey requires courage, patience, and love for yourself.
